I am feeling low...as low as it gets low...
I don't know, I think it's largely brought on by this back injury flare-up - call it the straw that broke the camel's back, if you will - me being the camel.
I don't like what I see, I don't like how I feel, I don't like the pain I'm in.
Is it all caused by neglecting myself??? ... Neglecting our children, our pets is a punishable crime. Neglect your car long enough and you won't be able to have it registered, not to mention, it will stop "functioning'...
Here I am - I've been grossly neglected by myself and no punishment - unless you consider the pain I'm in right now and the fact that (like a car) I am not really "functioning" all that well as punishment.
I am an intelligent, mature woman. I give friends advice on how to shed some kg's...they follow my suggestions and it works!! So why can I not follow my own advice? Apply my knowledge to my own situation?
I don't know
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Here's the thing - I don't want to be on a "diet"
I don't want to count points, or calories, or number of meals I eat, or cut out carbs, or fruit or have protein every time I open my mouth...
HELP!!!!!
What I'd like is to come up with some rules, bullet points, things "to do", general guidelines, if you will to get me back in the swing of weight-loss.
Can you help? I'd love suggestions...I really need some support
PS - Back is still extremely sore - no change from yesterday. Off to my Osteopath next week for some adjustment. I think there's something out of place back there...
FABULOUS SANDRA! ... The ramblings of a 40 - something wife and mum on a journey to be the best version of me.
Here's a dose of tough love (with emphasis on the 'love' bit).
ReplyDeleteFirstly - sort your back pain out.
Secondly - the pain of inaction is just as great as the pain of action - it's just as 'painful' sitting at the sidelines as it can be uncomfortable(you may be a little hungrier, note, not starving, in the short term) taking some action.
Thirdly - despite what some people will say, a healthy lifestyle where you remove addictive and allergenic foods from your nutrition plan, is not a diet - it's common sense.
Fourthly - the rest of my life is no easier nor harder than yours - it's how we deal with things that counts - about to write a blog post about this very thing. Take that away and action will precede motivation every time.
Last point = "inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy" (Dale Carnegie)
Sort out number one then get stuck into number 5 - and I shall be looking forward to some blog reports about how you're taking positive but firm action!
Liz - I will take my time to digest your advice...for now I will focus on No1 - my bloody back!
ReplyDeleteThank you xo
I can't disagree with Liz Sandra. You and I both know she's right and talks a lot of sense.
ReplyDeleteYou do need to get your back sorted first though, nothing pulls you down like back pain and I think it's clouding the issue for you.
I'm confident that once you get it sorted you will be back on track and feeling much better about things. xx
Sarah, I know exactly where Liz is coming from - the thing is, I am not having a pity party, I'm honestly feeling very low and worried that I'll fall into depression, which has happened before and is damn hard to crawl out of.
ReplyDeleteSorry if I came across as a whinger/loser...I was just putting my feelings out there.
Yes, my back is definitely clouding everything at the moment.
xoxox
Sandra, I understand how you feel. About a year ago, my back and leg pain was debilitating. I slipped into depression (although luckily not severe nor too long) and for 3 days I couldnt face work and people and having to be pleasant and professional. My advice: concentrate on fixing one thing at a time. Get your back sorted out and then pick just one thing to tackle, one habit to change one small goal to work towards.
ReplyDeleteThe other thing that got me through was accepting what I could do and what I couldnt (eg walk for 30 minutes vs run for 2 hours). I knew it was temporary and you need to remind yourself of that as well.
You dont come across as a whinger or loser AT ALL. Many of us have been there, felt that, faced the same or similar challenges. If you're like me, one day soon you'll wake up, see everything clearly and objectively and instinctively know what you need to do and you'll embrace it. (Just a hunch that we Cancerians are pretty much alike.)
Aaargh. I didn't think that at all Sandra, honestly. My comment was written in a hurry and doesn't actually convey the sympathy I have with you over both back pain and depression both of which I've suffered from in the past.
ReplyDeleteI think what I was trying to say is that everything put together can seem so overwhelming that it's very easy to fall into that dark place where it's hard to deal with anything so, the best thing to do, if you can, is to take one thing at a time and try and find a solution.
I still have times when I struggle, I know you've seen it in some of my posts and that's the great thing abut a blog, you can use it as a sounding post and a support system.
I've found the comments I've had invaluable so please don't ever worry that you are being judged because you really aren't. xx
Girls,
ReplyDeletethank you from the bottom of my heart for your words of wisdom.
I have gotten one thing out of this post - I will take one thing at a time...geez, I'd love to lose five kilos in one week and then attack the remaining extra...but it isn't going to happen, we all know that, me especially.
So, No 1 priority is to get over this pain. I have seen a slight improvement over the last eight hours...walking a little straighter. I decided to stop wallowing in the emotional pain this afternoon and had a hot shower followed by a long soak in a lovely scented bath (I'm funny in that I can't get into a bath unless I've showered first...)
I washed and dried my hair, cleansed and moisturised my face and feel a lot better.
Magda - you and I are very similar, so you read me very well and I appreciate your comments, and I do hope your words will come true and things fall into place soon
Sarah - I totally agree with you, it takes one thing (in this case my back relapse) to throw everything else out of perspective and the overwhelming feelings just take over.
Thanks again and good night!
Sandra, we've all been there at one stage or another(which is why we can all relate to this!) Being in pain makes everything so much worse - it's hard to think clearly. Depression just loves inaction, and starving this by taking control ie seeing physio, osteo etc will help smack it in the head.
ReplyDeleteLiz, you're all spot-on there...when I wrote this post, I was in agony. A few hours later and I was seeing the light at the end of the tunnel...xoxox
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